Fear of Judgement is a Prison

Let’s talk about Fear of Judgement.
 
How many times have you held yourself back because you were worried about what other people would think or say?
 
I get it. I get it because I’ve been there and it’s still a struggle.
 
When you create a life on YOUR terms, not everyone will agree with it. Not everyone will like it. And truth is, you may lose some people along the way…..
 
Remember when you first became a mom and all the info you had to sort through….
 
breastfeeding v. formula
co-sleeping v. not co-sleeping
organic v. conventional
store bought puree v. homemade
cloth diaper v. disposable
 
You get the picture.
 
You’re raising a healthy little human (or have raised them). Mama you made it!
 
It didn’t matter what everyone had to say, you did what you needed to do to keep your baby alive while maintaining your sanity.
 
And whether you’ve realized it yet or not, life works the same way.
 
9-5 v. entrepreneur
digital nomad v. location dependent
kids v. no kids
vegan v. paleo v. whatever else
mama self-care v. martyr
 
No one said it would be easy, that’s for sure!
 
But, from this day forward, I’m going to tell you what to do…
 
LIVE LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT TO…
 
Stop giving other people the power to determine how you “do life”
 
Just live. Live….
 
In whatever way it makes your heart sing
In whatever way brings you joy
In whatever way gives you the biggest belly laughs
In whatever way works for your family
In whatever way leads to you achieving the goals you have created for yourself
 
You got this
 
xo,
Carmen
 
(This picture was taken almost 2.5 years ago! After being induced and in labor for over 24 hours, this little one was forced out via c-section. I should have known then she would be doing life on her terms!)
csection pic

What’s the ROI of You?!


Hey There! 

Is it just me, or does there really need to be a day in between Saturday and Sunday?! The weekend always seems a little too short.

This past Friday I went to something called an “unconference”- no agenda, no set speakers. The attendees were all in charge of creating what was discussed. Oh, and did I also mention it was made up of 80 women lawyers?! Dope, right?

It was amazing and motivating to see so many individuals dealing with similar issues- work/life balance, being a perfect mom and being a great employee/er, wanting career growth, etc. Absolutely EMPOWERING and I made some really awesome new friends!

Obviously, it got me thinking about you and how much energy you spend on things you can change but don’t. Double standards, pay inequality, and lack of women in certain careers are all issues that are being addressed within society…..slowly but surely. But your personal issues and concerns- well those you can deal with head on and RIGHT NOW.

As your business and your family grow, it’s important to make sure you take some time to step back and re-evalute how you’re spending your time. Where are you investing your energy and whats the return on investment (ROI) of that energy?

Not only is caring for the kiddos, the house and the business important, but so is self-care. You don’t want to burn out. So, take steps to tackle things that have been lingering and taking up too much of your energy.

Whether its creating your estate plan, incorporating a new business, or deciding how your business will run when you’re gone- you have items on your mind that could have been checked off a loooooong time ago. Let’s be honest, if you would stop being afraid of the uncertainty and stop procrastinating, you could deal with some of the energy-suckers.

Stop spending your time on the “WHAT-IFs” and put some plans in place so you can spend more time snuggling with those babies and building your squad.

Moral of this story: Stop with the excuses already! Invest in yourself, your business, and your family. Meet new people. Get out of your comfort zone.

And I can promise you that the ROI on getting your ducks in a row and taking care of yourself outweighs the stress, time and financial impact of dealing with the clean up after a storm.

So, cheers to new beginnings- a new week and new month- and to getting sh!t done!

xo

Carmen

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