Are you too comfortable?

Hey There, Mama!
Have you gotten too comfortable? Just taking it day by day?
When you get comfortable, you’re less likely to make improvements in your life.
Because you’ve settled.
You’ve become complacent.
I’ll tell you right now that you won’t be able to achieve your dreams if you’re cozy in your comfort zone.
I won’t sugar coat it. I’m going to keep it REAL AF. Only because I’ve been there.
Wanting to achieve big dreams and move mountains only to realize I was comfortable in my little bubble.
Success and dreams require you to get up and out of that zone. They don’t sit around and come knocking on your bubble’s door.
They only come around when you’re off your butt and taking big, bold, action.
Want to find out if you’re too comfort comfortable?
I have a free worksheet for you to complete. No email required. No strings attached. Get it here.
Once you realize where you are settling, then you can take the steps to make the changes you want, live your life with purpose, on purpose and leave a legacy you want.
P.P.S. Stay tuned for my 7 Day Challenge on Wholistic Life Planning

Happy New Year’s Eve!

Its never too early or too late to start a new goal or challenge. Want to know the key to success?? It’s to DO- take steps that will move you forward. Hope helps, but it’s not enough.

As this year ends and a new one begins, be sure to take action steps to be successful. Each day is a new day, do something different.

If financial freedom is your goal- create a budget. If a healthier lifestyle is your goal- get walking, throw out the junk food. If a  happier life is your goal- take steps to be stress free, schedule time to get away from work and spend time with loved ones. Whatever goal or challenge you set for the new year, work at it, breathe it- be successful.

Thank you all for following this blog and the continued support I have had in hanging my own shingle. I hope that what we write helps you and makes life a little easier- not only during times of divorce or financial/estate planning- but overall. I can promise that in the coming year, our office will continue to provide information you can use.

Wishing you all a prosperous and happy new year! See you all in 2013!

New Year, New You! Make this year YOUR year.

new_years_eve_getaways_600x450Someone once told me that the definition of Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
(My younger brother, apparently quoting Albert Einstein)

Each year, we all make resolutions- lose weight, save more, eat better, spend less time working, etc., etc. And each year many of us break those resolutions within a month (or two if we’re lucky).

Here are some tips to help get a jump start to 2013 and make some changes that aren’t so dramatic:

Make a New Year’s Resolution: Even if you break it, at least you had the intent, right?! This year, make it your New Year’s Resolution to reduce stress and anxiety over the economy and get your finances in order. Start by turning off the evening news and spending quality time with loved ones. Taking a step back will help you gain long-term perspective and focus on the people who matter most in your life.

Focus on Your Health: The relationship between physical health and mental health is important. Focus on finding the right balance in your diet, through exercise and getting a good night’s sleep.

Don’t Make Rash Decisions: Making any decision on the spur of the moment is never a good idea. Try not to react immediately to bad news. Take some deep breaths and meditate for a minute or so.

Don’t Stress Over the Things You Can’t Control: I am a control freak. I cannot deny it, but even I know there are somethings in life we cannot control. So, focus less on the things you can’t control, like the stock market and the cost of living, loss, and more on the things you can. Review your expenses and see where you can make cuts. Postpone that vacation or eat out a little less. Use the opportunity to find things to do with your loved ones that bring you closer and cost less, such as a family game night or handmade gifts. In thinking about what you can control, this does include estate planning. (Keep an eye out for our post on Finances and Estate Planning in the next few days!)

Don’t be afraid to seek help: We can’t do EVERYTHING without feeling a little stressed! If anxiety or stress becomes too much, find someone you can talk to about what you’re going through. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from family members, friends, and a professional, if necessary.

We hope this helps jumpstart your resolution setting (even if it is broken by Valentine’s Day!) and helps you take back your life- wishing you lots of Peace and Joy in the coming year!


What is your New Year’s Resolution? I know you’ve thought about it.

As many of you prepare for the new year and begin thinking of resolutions, you will all think about the FUTURE.

The future consists of a second from now, a minute, a year, even ten years.

Many of you will have financial and health goals- in those goals, it is important to remember that part of planning for the future is planning for unexpected occurrences and even death.

Is your family prepared if something happens to you or someone you love? What will happen to your home? Your children? Where will you be buried? Or will you be cremated? Would there be a memorial service in a church, temple, synagogue, or home? The holidays are a time for celebration, love and joy.

Enter the new year knowing you are better prepared- not for yourself, but for your child(ren) and family- create an estate plan. Find out more about estate planning and how to prepare your family for the future by contacting our office to schedule a consultation.



Note: Carmen Rosas is an attorney in California. She practices family law (divorce, custody, and support) and estate planning (wills, trusts, advance health care directive).